"Sorry sir, can you repeat that?"
"I'm calling because my wife is planning to attend one of your conferences and I just want to be sure it's appropriate for her and if the topics your are speaking on, will be relevant and biblically sound for her. You know how you women are..." (stated in a harsh tone)
I try really hard not be defensive in anything in life and it takes a lot for me to get to that place, but I responded quickly and firmly. (especially after he said, "you know how YOU women are...")
"I'm positive, sir, that your wife will receive much and be blessed by the conference. Is your wife with you right now while you've taken the time to call me?"
(long pause and silence)
"Well, no not really. She's at work now."
"Does she know you're calling me? Did you tell her you would be calling me on this, sir?"
".......No. I don't want her to know. It's very complicated."
"Then, sir, with all due respect, I can't speak to you. You see, this conversation isn't appropriate for me to attend to. Seems a bit strange for a man to call a woman he doesn't know without his wife's approval. And speaking of "appropriate and biblical", how does the fact that you called me - fit into that thinking?"
"I see what you're saying, ma'am..."
Every once in a while, I'm reminded of the neanderthal mindset that still exists in the heart of a controlling over-bearing bible-thumping husband. When I turned his conversation around, using his own words, he grew deafly silent.
I'm praying today for his wife. I'm sure this isn't a first for her. I also pray she comes to the event. I pray she has the courage to overcome what I'm sure has been a difficult dominating journey.
I always pray for women attending any conference, retreat or event I speak for. But I also have included praying for the spouse at home too. "God, give them the assurance and presence of mind to love their wives enough that they give them an embracing send-off."
My thoughts today:
- Husbands, love your wives. Be their covering, not their containment.
- Wives, love your husbands. Really really do this.
- A women's conference should never cause a division between a husband and a wife; it should be an oasis getaway, empowering you MORE to be the best you can be in all relational aspects.
- The first excuse or demand someone gives you is rarely the heart of the real issue. There's something brewing under the surface.
I know there's a whole lot more going on with this man. Pray for him. And being the humorist that I am, I find no humor in any of this...